This Business of Loving

(If you read the IAHE's blog, you may have already been in on 

'This Business of Loving', but in case you missed it there, I wanted to share it here.) 

I've noticed something.  Sometimes we look at each other's families and think everybody but us has it all together.  Everybody else's families get along better than ours.  Their garden is more productive.  Their children are smarter.  We think other families don't struggle like we do.  We're the only ones with challenges.

That is just a pack of lies.

There is no perfect family.  Each and every family has areas they're still growing in, and the sooner we realize it, the better off we'll be.  If we can talk about it, we can encourage one another and build each other up.  So today I think we should talk about loving.

Let's just admit it up front.  Some people are easier to love than others.  For whatever particular reasons, some of our companions, maybe in the family or maybe not, have a more exhausting effect on our hearts than others do.

Over the years, I found myself, many times, praying for God to help me to love like He does.  After all, doesn't He tell us to imitate Him, as beloved children?  (Ephesians 5:1)  I have tried loving from my own limited resources and strength, and I have drained the last of them.  I don't know if I would have admitted it right out, but I was operating as if it were up to me to drum up all that love to imitate His love with.  It just wasn't working.  When I knew I should be loving, I felt more like retreating in frustration instead.  What was I to do?

Then the Lord, in His gentle way, reminded me of a truth that transformed everything--I'm dead.  That's right, I'm dead.

"I have been crucified with Christ;

and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me;

and the life which I now live in the flesh
I live by faith in the Son of God,

who loved me and gave Himself up for me."

Galatians 2:20

So. . . It's not actually about me just trying harder to love like He does, or even Him as an outside entity filling me with His love.  The reality is that He, in me, actually does the loving!  What a relief!

It should have been no surprise that I had failed; the dead aren't exactly known for their amazing accomplishments.  How freeing to be reminded that His never ending love has always been up to the job.  My aim, as His beloved child, is to please Him, but the power to actually do it is all from His life in me.

One more thing still bothered me though.  Why did loving still have to be so challenging? Again, His gentle reminder,

". . .and the life I now live . . . , I live by faith in the Son of God,
who loved me . . ."

He loved me!  Me, who is needy.  Me, who messes up.  Me, who often fails to use her head.  Me, who just seems to 'not get it' sometimes.  He loves me. Why should I think that the ones He wants to love through me should not be this way, should not be so needy?

The ones He chooses to set His love on through me won't necessarily be easy to love or worthy.  Neither am I.  I'm realizing that all the loving He does through me is a picture of His love for me.  It's the same love, and we're all equally needy.

When He loves through me, He picks the object of His love; I don't get to do the choosing. When I might be turned off, put off, or repulsed, He can and does love the most unlovely. And He does it perfectly.  I must remember that it's not my life anymore--I'm dead--I'm His temple now, His hands and feet.  I'm here for Him to love through me.  When my old self resurrects, and I forget who's really alive here, I get frustrated, and I bristle at the task. But this business of loving will never be too much for Him.

His love endures forever!  His compassions never cease!

O Lord, as beloved children, our aim is to please you.  Transform our homes, dear Father, with Your truth, as You transform us into the image of your Son!

I pray, "That He would grant you,
according to the riches of His glory,

to be strengthened with power
through His Spirit in the inner man,

so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith;

and that you, being rooted and grounded in love,

may be able to comprehend with all the saints

what is the breadth and length and height and depth,
and to know

the love of Christ

which surpasses knowledge,

that you may be filled up to all the fullness of God."

Ephesians 3:16-19

A Very Short Song

I was reading in Jeremiah.  God is explaining that His promises to His people can't be broken.  He calls creation to witness to His dependability and faithfulness, and points out the daily rise and set of the sun.  The things we count on being constant every moment, the things we depend upon every day, the things we never even question, are actually fully sustained by His power.  All the things we depend upon for our very existence are totally out of our control, but they are totally in His control.

"Thus says the LORD, who gives the sun for light by day, and the fixed order of the moon and the stars for light by night, who stirs up the sea so that its waves roar; the Lord of hosts is His name:
'If this fixed order departs from before me,' declares the LORD, 'then the offspring of Israel also shall cease from being a nation before Me forever.'"  Jeremiah 31:35-36

And from Jeremiah 33:20-21, "Thus says the LORD, 'If you can break My covenant for the day, and my covenant for the night, so that day and night will not be at their appointed time, then My covenant may also be broken with David my servant that he shall not have a son to reign on his throne. . .'"

We could no more stop His promises than we could keep the sun from rising!

And that's when the very short song came to me.

I wondered at what could be the use of such a very short song.  That is until I remembered how, when I was a girl, we used to have one of those very short songs at the start of our worship service each Sunday.  Do you know what we called it?  A 'Call to Worship'.

And here my heart smiled, and I had to say aloud, "Of course--how very appropriate a name!"

Here are the words.

Did the sun set last night?
Did it rise this morning from its place?
Okay, then, His promises stand.
I rest my case.

Dear friends, the next time you are tempted to be discouraged, call this to mind.  Ask yourself those very questions, and join me on my knees in worship.  He is so faithful!

"The LORD is my strength and my shield;
My heart trusts in Him, and I am helped;
Therefore my heart exults, and with my song I shall thank Him." Psalm 28:7

"Whoever believes in Him will not be disappointed."  Romans 10:11

Mama Bear Speaks Up: What's Wrong With "Contemplative Prayer"

Mama bears.  Describe their commitment to their cubs’ welfare as extreme devotion, and it would likely still be an understatement.  So when I tell you that the mama bear in me is rising up, this is serious.

And it is no time for silence.

Last week, my children were asked—in a setting we trusted—to participate in a pagan/New Age meditation practice.  Alarm sirens went off in each of our three children’s hearts because we have taught and warned them extensively about this, but what if they hadn’t known how to identify this apostate deception?

Our children were not the only children present, and I fear not all of those present were aware of the trap that was being set for them. Sadly, many of their parents likely do not know how to warn them.

Because it is imperative that we—and our children—know the truth and can discern truth from error, I write today with urgency.  Foremost to this context is an understanding of what Biblical meditation is.   Without a solid understanding of truth, we are incapable of recognizing blatant lies, let alone crafty and subtle error.

The Word ‘meditate’ is used multiple places in Scripture, especially in Psalm 1, 63, 77, 143, and 145.  The meaning of the Hebrew word translated ‘meditate’ in English is very telling.  It means to ponder and think carefully, to consider, to muse, and to remember.  It even includes the idea of an audible conversation with one’s self that involves a mind fully occupied with rational, conscious thoughts. According to Scripture, these rational, conscious thoughts are about definite content, specifically about the Lord Himself—His character, nature, and attributes, His Word, His precepts, His statutes, His wonderful works, His wonders, His law, His majesty, and His testimony.  In the context of Scripture, the goals and outcome of Biblical meditation are also clear, including understanding and insight that result in obedience to God.

In summary, Biblical meditation is practiced with an active mind, fully engaged in rational, conscious thought, carefully considering God’s nature, works, and revealed Word, with the ultimate goal of obedience to God.  This definition of Biblical meditation, by the way, is not some mysterious, confusing, or contested interpretation, but is derived from explicit Scripture verses and a standard Hebrew dictionary.

Unfortunately, what is so clearly specified in Scripture is being ignored by a growing number of people who are promoting pagan forms of meditation within ‘Christian’ contexts.  The pagan meditation goes by various inventive names, including, but not limited to, ‘contemplative prayer’, ‘centering prayer’, ‘breath prayer’, ‘the silence‘, listening to the silence’, 'listening prayer', and ‘being still before God’.    Though bearing new names, they are all essentially whitewashed transcendental meditation as practiced by Buddhists, New Agers, and other self-proclaimed mystics practicing nearly every religion on the planet.

Let me explain.  While there are minor variations, I found essentially the same technique described by thinly veiled Hindu transcendental meditation experts who claim to not be religious at all, by people who claim to be Christian, by Jewish Rabbis, Buddhists, and even Muslims.  Three basic steps of this kind of meditation are essentially the following:  (I will use the supposedly Christian version of the instructions.)

1.      Don’t think about God.  Aim to avoid any particular rational thought.

2.      Choose a ‘sacred word’ to repeat over and over for twenty minutes or so until the word becomes meaningless.       Examples given of words to use include ‘Jesus’ and ‘Abba’.  The alternative to repeating a word is to focus or concentrate on one’s breathing.

3.      When conscious thoughts break in, simply return to the sacred word or to a focus on one’s breathing.

The result of this kind of meditation is sometimes described as a kind of altered state of consciousness (though some deny this aspect and say they simply experience a calm or 'oneness' with God or with the natural world around them), a sort of inward, mystical, emotional high, described by some practitioners as “ecstasy”, that may involve, at times, tingling, bright lights, a feeling of weightlessness, a feeling of energy flowing through one’s body, or voices audible only to the practitioner.

Make no mistake!  This so-called ‘contemplative prayer’, which is actually pagan meditation, is nothing like Biblical prayer or Biblical meditation!  Step one above is clearly contradicted by Jesus’ instruction to His disciples when they asked Him how to pray in Luke 11.  As recorded in Matthew 6, the first words of His example prayer focus specifically on God, “Our Father, who art in heaven. . .”   Step two above is also clearly contradicted by the words of Jesus to “avoid meaningless repetition” in prayer.  (Matthew 6:7)

The contrast could not be more obvious.  This pagan form of meditation, which is being increasingly advanced in ‘Christian’ circles, is not focused on God, while Biblical meditation is entirely focused on God and His Word.  Pagan meditation is void of meaningful content and void of rational thought, while Biblical meditation is content-rich, rational thought.   Pagan meditation emphasizes silence and listening, while Biblical meditation is a more like a conversation that can even be spoken aloud.  Pagan meditation emphasizes union with one’s ‘divine self’, ‘higher self’, 'true self' or the 'unified field' (entirety of all matter), while Biblically informed meditation recognizes a very great difference between our nature and God’s—only He is God.  Pagan meditation’s goal is an altered state of consciousness according to some, and to others it is for 'entering into the ordinary', discovering their 'true selves' as they 'experience the presence' and renounce thoughts, while Biblical meditation leads to fully informed conscious obedience to God.

No matter what you name it, a pagan practice is still a pagan practice all the same, and one does not encounter God using pagan practices.  These insidious practices are neither prayer nor meditation by any Biblical standard.

Deuteronomy 18:9 makes it plain that God’s people are not to imitate the detestable things unbelievers practice.  I Timothy 4:1 warns, “The Spirit explicitly says that in later times some will fall away from the faith, paying attention to deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons . . .”  Tellingly, people who advocate pagan meditation, but call it Christian meditation, openly proclaim that their form of meditation can open up common ground among all faiths.  They say it will deepen your faith, no matter what your religion.  Hmmm, now how could that be. . .

Make no mistake—this is war!  We must be armed with a knowledge of the truth and be on guard against lies, so that we—and our children—may, as Jude 3 says, “earnestly contend for the faith”!